You Have The Right To Say “No”

If you always say “yes”, it can ruin your life and lead to mental and emotional burnout. You should say “yes” to life and open yourself to the world and new opportunities, but also learn when to say “no”.

How can constantly saying “yes” crush and complicate your life? The more comfortable you become for others, the less you begin to devote time to your needs and protect your personal borders.

Saying “yes” is easier, it is easier to agree to do supernorms at work, neglecting personal time, to look like a more loyal employee in the eyes of the boss, to make concessions in relationships, fearing to offend a partner and remain alone, to be a trouble-free person for your friends and relatives.

And it seems that you should become the new hero of this city – “The” Man or Woman, who is known for their generosity, but in the end, for some reason, you often remain extremely exhausted in everything you do. You are trying to meet a bunch of promises and obligations to the detriment of your own desires and needs which can lead to panic and emotional burnout.

If you do not learn to say the word no.
This really needs to be learned, because for the majority of people it is very difficult to refuse certain things. Why do you need to use the power of the word “no”? Here’s why:

  • You are being honest with yourself and others.
  • Saying yes is easier, but not necessarily.
  • By constantly agreeing, we learn to give, forgetting that we must also accept. So we often upset the balance and do not replenish our resources.
  • Because everyone has the right to say “no”.

Why is saying “no” so difficult?

Ever since our childhood we have been taught to be good boys and good girls who, contrary to their wishes, put the needs of others in the first place, saying “yes” when you want to say “no”. Otherwise, “it’s selfish, wrong and somehow not friendly”, they would tell us. “No” is regarded as bad at the very start, and you are supposed to feel guilty if you say “no”. To change your attitude, you need to work with the attitudes you acquired in your childhood and begin to listen to your own desires.
Otherwise, guilty feelings for each refusal will “eat” you emotionally, they will cause anxiety, self-doubt and dissatisfaction with life.

How to say “no”:

  • Short and simple, without long explanations that begin to turn into excuses.
  • Decide on your priorities now and for the future and give an answer – yes/no, according to how it will be more comfortable for you.
  • In order for you to be easier to refuse something, use polite and more loyal constructions, e.g. “not this time”, “I don’t think it will be interesting / convenient for me”, “I prefer to refuse.”

Recognize that sometimes saying “no” is the best option for everyone. Often we agree to do something that is not within our competence, and we may well overestimate our capabilities only out of good intentions.

Written By Tyara Wolf

Psychology and Personal Development

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